A. Think of your childhood caretakers. List their negative qualities. (Pick at least 5)**
absent abusive addicted aggressive alcoholic angry boring busy cold controlling critical dangerous depressed dishonest distant emotional fragile grumpy immature impatient insensitive intrusive jealous lazy passive passive-aggressive perfectionistic reactive rigid sarcastic shallow stingy unaffectionate unavailable unforgiving uninterested unreliable wounding

B. Think of frustrating times you had with them and list how you felt. (Pick at least 5)**
abandoned afraid alone angry anxious ashamed cheated cold depressed disappointed distant embarrassed frustrated guilty hopeless hurt inadequate insecure jealous mistrustful rejected unloved

C. Now list their positive qualities. (Pick at least 5)**
accessible affectionate altruistic attentive available confident connected courageous creative dependable enthusiastic fair faithful forgiving hard-working honest open-minded playful respectful responsible safe sincere spiritual spontaneous supportive talented tender tolerant trustworthy warm wise

D. Think of the pleasant times you had with them and list how you felt. (Pick at least 5)**
close excited happy loved loving peaceful playful proud reassured respected safe satisfied secure trusted warm

E. List how you most often reacted as a child/teen to those frustrating times. (Pick at least 5)**
argued became aggressive became depressed became low achieving became passive became passive-aggressive became super-achieving became rebellious complained criticized distanced drank failed got in fights isolated left nagged over-ate ran away slammed doors slept starved myself stayed busy talked to friends threw/broke things threw-up used drugs whined withdrew yelled/screamed